Cohabitating Before Marriage Essay

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Today there are many couples living together before marriage. Sometimes these kinds of relationships end up with success and sometimes they are unsuccessful. There are many advantages and disadvantages in living together before marriage. The advantages of living together before marriage is to get to know your partner, learn about one's abilities if he/she can satisfy your expectations, and more. Yet on the other hand, the disadvantages of living together before marriage are the following: one's religious standards and family values, parenting problems and more. I believe there are more advantages than disadvantages in living together before marriage, because sometimes disadvantages in this ...view middle of the document...

The advantage of living together before marriage is getting to know that special person that you may marry. It is important for a person to know almost everything about the other person that he/she is going to get marry with. However, it can't be accomplished without living together for a while before getting married. People need to know how a person is handling his/her life from all aspects such as behavior, mental, financial and others before a person decides to get married. This can not be completed in a few days, therefore, it is important to live together for a while before deciding whether to get married or not (David Popenoe and Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, 2002).Spending more time with the person you love is another benefit to sharing a place. It saves on gas, because you don't have to travel to see them. Depending on schedules, phone conversations will probably be shorter, so that means lower cell phone bills. It's nice to have them close by and you don't have to miss them as much. It's just nice.Yet another advantage is that you can find out how responsible they are. By seeing if they pay the bills on time, since that's a major factor in how a person handles responsibility. If chores and bills are split between the two, it becomes clear who is more efficient and responsible. Therefore, if the two of you are snuggled on the couch watching a movie and all of a sudden the lights and television go out, you know that the person next to you forgot to pay for something. "Or maybe it was you" (David Popenoe and Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, 2002).Also living together can also become very difficult. When faced with habits, responsibility, and strange preferences, relationships often take a turn for the worse. The shock of poor hygiene or the extremely picky and obsessive living manners of your significant other could be a turn off. If you find that lifestyles are just not compatible the relationship may sadly end. Some people feel this is a good thing because they have the freedom to easily leave, in most cases, because there is no divorce process. They can walk away sayin, "at least I didn't marry them."Cohabitation is replacing marriage as people are starting live together first, especially for those who have children at a young age. When brides walk down the aisle over half have already lived together with a boyfriend. For today's young adults, living together seems like a good way to achieve some of the benefits of marriage and avoid the risk of divorce. Couples who live together can share expenses and learn more about each other (Hymowitz, 2003). They can find out if their partner has what it takes to be married. If things don't work out, breaking up is easy to do.Cohabitated couples have the option to leave their partner without the expenses of a divorce, but how it is determined what belongs to whom. With marriage and divorce, the law helps to explain what belongs to whom, typically through a "split pot" system (Claire M Kamp Dush, Catherine L...

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