Deborah Tannen Essay

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Tannen and Ploetz have two different views on men and women's communication patterns. Tannen takes an apolitical stance and believes men "report talk" and women "rapport talk". Ploetz believes "men take a more political stance and use dominant speech acts, like commands, orders, challenges, and criticism. While women defend, ask for favors, beg, request permission, and ask someone else's perspective on the situation". In my opinion I think men and women have the power to communicate on an equal level. Men just tend to take a more aggressive approach. (Tannen pg. 9, Ploetz pg. 68) Tannen believes "men and women were raised in two different cultures. She believes that ...view middle of the document...

(Tannen pg. 9) Ploetz says, "men tend to dominate in their conversations", while Tannen says "men express ignorance, selfishness, and rudeness". I don't think Tannen is correct. Yes, when men speak its more of a status symbol, usually the man doing all the talking is running the show but I don't think that shows any signs of being ignorant, selfish, or rude. (Ploetz pg. 69,73) Tannen believes "men report and are interested in a different goal, the solution of problems". I think Tannen is correct, men do tend to report but that's because men and woman are not miscommunicating they just have different styles of speaking. Ploetz thinks, "men take a more unempathetic, unconcerned problem solving response". When men speak they are more aggressive want to get to the point and want to find a solution to the problem it's not that we don't care we just want to get to the point. When women speak they tend to be more sensitive and understanding while still trying to get at the same point. (Ploetz pg.70) Tannen and Ploetz both have good points I am stuck in the middle. I have my own belief or theory. I believe men and women are equals and should be treated as equals. Women have the power to communicate with any man at any level. Men usually take a more aggressive approach in the conversation and women tend to be the emotional sympathetic party in the conversation. I think nothing is wrong with that; the tables could turn at any time. Women have come a long way and will continue to push until they feel they have gained the respect and social status they desire. Keep up the good work!

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