There are several different ways of parenting your children. Some can be more favorable than others, which there are four distinct parenting styles. There is Authoritative, Authoritarian, Permissive, and Disengaged parents. My mother, Catherine had often choose the authoritative style, which is known as the most successful approach. According to Jeffrey Arnett and Lene Jenson, “Authoritative parents are loving and warm toward their children, and respond to what their children need and desire.” (Arnett & Jensen, 2018)253 My mother has always been involved in my life and is accepting as well as sensitive to my daily needs. The authoritative side of my upbringing was often used to communicate clear standards, but not in a way that was aggressive or restrictive. Most of my punishments were due to my bad behavior, bad grades, or when I would lie to my mother. When I would do something wrong against another person, my mother would sit me down and explain why I was wrong and how the situation had appeared to the other person. The effects of different parenting methods can vary from family to family, but the authoritative parenting method has been very effective in shaping my who I am as a person.
According to Jeffrey Arnett and Lene Jenson, “Authoritative parents are high in demandingness and high in responsiveness.” (Arnett & Jensen, 2018)253 Authoritative parents do not let their kids get away with bad behavior, which they enforce the rules and have expectations for their children. Which they are also very gentle and rational with their children, as they explain the reasons for enforcing the rules and the consequences if they don't follow the rules. While asking and even listening to the child’s opinions about the rules. According to Baumrind’s research, “the optimal parenting style is authoritative parenting, which it was based on the positive effects on children.”(Arnett & Jensen, 2018)253 Authoritative parents often share common characteristics, which they set clear and consistent limits in their parenting. Also they have high expectations for their children but are warm and nurturing for their daily needs. Which they listen and talk to their children, giving them the chance to be independent in their thinking and actions. As they encourage their opinions, and discuss how to fix the problem. Authoritative parents tend to be role models, which their kids learn effective relational skills from their parents. (Arnett & Jensen, 2018) This parenting style is a balance of boundaries, and the loving support primarily creates a secure attachment between the parent and child that can benefit everyone. Which the child can take these qualities into their relationships out in the world, and eventually with their own children.
In Baumrind’s study, “she had found that authoritative parents were very consistent in enforcing limits with their children.” (Arnett & Jensen, 2018)254 My mother,...