Running head: DEALING WITH POWER PLAYS
DEALING WITH POWER PLAY
Dear Needing Empowerment in Nevada,
It has been known that feelings are important aspect of our lives but the trouble is many of us have been brought up to ignore and override feelings. We feel guilty if we express our feelings of anger, shame, guilt and annoyance. We are afraid that we will hurt the feelings of others due to being people pleaser. The result of this kind of suppression is often anxiety, phobias, depression and restlessness. Feelings are often complex and it is hard to identify them. Sometimes, even if we identify them, it becomes hard to express them. It is important to identify feelings and then be able to express them appropriately to avoid the dangers of becoming prone to anxiety and phobias. Also, be aware that feelings are never right or wrong. The best way to state your feelings is to talk it out. By getting an outlet to your feelings, you might feel relieved. Another way of expressing your feelings is to write it out. Tyr to write whatever you want to say, and then read it again. You will find a better word choices or you can manage your tune due to the subject, so you be more confident when you explain that to your friend. In fact, it is also important to get rid of the “what if” thinking because it stops you from being rational and you begin to hide and mask your feelings.
There are a lot of moments during our lives we feel unappreciated. Not only from our teammates, but also friends, family, or teachers. There are some things we can do to deal with unappreciated behavior. You can invite trusted friends to share their success. Share yours. Create environments where bragging is OK, once in a while. Work hard because of who you are. Express appreciation when you receive appreciation. Value your work like you hope others will. Don’t say, “It was nothing.” To describe person’s unappreciated behavior, you should first observe it. This means that you should describe the behavior. Describe what you see without providing any interpretation, justification or evaluation of the behavior. After that, describe your feelings. You could describe the emotions that you felt as a result of the observation. Your emotions should be described the way you feel not the way you think of others feelings. For example, you could say “I feel unappreciated” (DeVito, 2016).
Power could be in on person or verbal and nonverbal messages according to DeVito (2016). Which means that the power resides in you as a person, depends on the credibility that you are seen to possess. If people see you a...